Moving Forward

This is not only about his situation but apparently the situation of many men. Your wife is beautiful, virtuous, she is busy with her hands, she can manage the household and the money, but you are not able to build with her, but you can build with a man. Your wife found nudes of men in your phone, what is she supposed to do with that? More time is spent with him than with her, how should she feel? On your days off, instead of taking her on a trip, you take him, how does this affect her role as a wife? How are these situations supposed to play out....

It is hard to be honest about our needs and desires, especially related to sex (there it is, I finally said it, I can breathe)! People are not mind readers and instead of leaving it open to guesses just say what you need from your partner.

The first play is a conversation. Whether it happens just between the two of you or with a therapist, communication is vital. Not to blame each other and point out flaws but to discuss what you need or what you lack.

Men we support you, if you prefer him over us, we support you BUT what you can not do is live a double life. You are not allowed to leave your woman guessing, wishing, or praying about something that does not interest you.

Be honest with yourself. Once you are honest about any issue, the devil can no longer taunt you with it. One lie leads to more lies. Stop the cycle.

It is two sides to this, the man who is in a mental struggle and the wife who loves her man.

And women, if he wants something different, do not make him feel bad about it (although, most would intially act out), pray God heals, restores, and guide you to someone who can give himself to you fully.