Question

Today a friend asked if I agreed with this statement: If your needs are met, would you show up differently? Would you be your best self if are loved correctly?

I reflected back on previous relationships. Let me first say that I was very immature and didn’t necessarily know what I was doing nor did I understand the concept of marriage.

My husband met my needs to the best of his abilities. I reciprocated my love for him to the best of my abilities.

The problem was that we both showed up for each other but we failed to show up for ourselves.

My husband could not be what I needed him to be because I Didn’t know what I needed as I chose to get married when I was broken. Had I been healed or even on my journey to becoming healed, I would not have chosen him. Had he been whole he would not have chose me.

Often we enter into relationships while we are broken and expect the other person to make us “feel” better. We fail to consider that one day we may be whole.

If you were healthy, and on your spiritual journey to wholeness, what characteristics would you desire in a spouse?

As your broken self what type of person are you deciding to connect with?

Before you show up for anyone else you have to show up for yourself. No matter how hard you try, if you can’t be happy with yourself, there is no one in the world who will make you happy.

Be happy with yourself and love yourself so that when the next person chooses to love you, you will be able to welcome it and show up

As your best self!