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If you can't forgive them, you shouldn't want them in your life. If you consistently bring up what someone did to you, you don't need them in your life. This is for any type of relationship....

Forgive and forget? Honestly, at times I find both are difficult for me. However, as I soul search, I realize, I have forgiven many for much, to whom much is given much is required.

I can't say I forget, but as time goes on things seem irrelevant. Bad memories are replaced with new and better ones. Seasons change, people change, and I have changed. It is the forgiveness of my mess for me that causes me not to hold on to the mess of others.

See what we can't do is allow the person, who hurt us, back into our lives if we are going to hold that thing against them. Why would we want the person in our life? Is it so we can make them miserable or hurt them as much/more than they hurt us. Is it something truly wrong with us? If we desire to have them in our lives, the desire must be stronger than anything they have done to hurt us and we have to be willing to love away the hurt/tears/sorrow. Love does cover a multitude of transgression.

Hopefully this will help somebody...stop it! If you have to bring it up, let the person go. This does not mean there shouldn't be conversations but conversations should be at a place of healing and not ridicule. Stop saying hurtful things to get even or remind them...stop.

This type pf behavior proves you have not forgiven them and you have just waited for an opportunity to drive a well thought of emotional dagger into their heart and you probably did it at a time when they were at a low place in their life. In this case who is worse, you or them?

Stop it..do better...glow up