Silence is a Virtue

Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself: Benjamin Franklin

I have learned the benefits of remaining silent. Previously, I would speak out of turn, I had to always prove my point, and even said mean things about the person I said I wanted to spend my life with.

A man does not want a woman who always has something to say which is not adding value to his life. A man does not want to live in the house with a woman who argues and out speaks him on every occasion.

I was that woman and I am ashamed of myself as I was raised better than acting out in such a way.

I now appreciate the value of listening to my partner. Your partner has to be secure in knowing that what they discuss with you is private..you become his vault.

SIDE NOTE: Women, we know we need to confide in someone.....make sure they can be trusted! Confide in a friend who can encourage you and not look at your man differently.

Talking to much was one of my flaws, my worst flaw! This flaw destroyed many of my relationships and although, there was an action that triggered my words, I no longer justify my actions by telling my side of the story. I let people think what they think, say what they say, and do what they do and my life moves on.

Wisdom says we don't always have to be heard. Listen to your partner, allow them to be their true authentic selves. They should never have to pretend with you!

Take in more than you let out. Be mindful of what your body language is communicating. Be sure to communicate love. Don't make the mistakes I made. I encourage you to exercise caution..don't be that woman.